Falling in Heels.

I have to admit, relationship is always the best topic to talk and write about. If there’s one thing I will be much interested to know, it’s the story behind each bond. But there’s one thing that remains to be in hall of fame (or shame) in any friends’ night out or girl power bonding or colleagues gossiping - BREAK UP.

Break up is like falling in heels. From your easy, perfect and almost model-like catwalk- you suddenly miss a step and fall. Fall hard that almost break your foot.  And while you try to get up and balance from that throbbing slip, you ask yourself: “How will I ever walk again?”

There are tons of good advices, to-dos and tips on how to move on from excruciating ending. I remember even buying break-up books and reading every break up article in Cosmopolitan magazine religiously just to cope up with the painful process. But one thing I have learned from every heartbreaking tale- it doesn’t matter how long you move on, it’s how you deal with it. Sadness and bitterness are your best buddies, but eventually, they will just fade away. And tears will be at peace again.

Everyone deserves to stand from a bad fall. To once again reclaim that confidence lost. To once again believe that there will be much better walk. Easier. Lovelier. Nobody should be condemned for being in pain. And any way of getting over it should be understood. Break up sucks big time, but the story behind it should be respected. Because no one ever wanted to stumble and fall.

When I was asked by someone who is going through a painful breakup: “How did you move on?”

 I didn’t know what to say. I guess, you won’t ever know. You will just feel and discern that you’ve gone through a bad fall but you try to stand and walk like you have never been before.